Love on the Rebound

znhgfnxIn Getting Back Out There, we explore bumps in the dating road, which are the “5 R’s.”  One of the 5 R’s is “Rebounding.”

Many go through a bad breakup and soon seek solace in a relationship long before they are ready.  It is the classic rebound. Although “rebound” is usually defined negatively, it’s not always the case that it’s a negative experience.

Things rarely go right when you’re on the rebound and most people know that. Still, the “rebound now, pay later” mentality exists. It can be a desirable situation for someone who has been made to feel unattractive, unworthy or unwanted by someone they cared for.  Even if you’re not ready for a relationship, you may find a short, whirlwind romance is just what the love doctor ordered.

Sometimes the rebound is a response to being left for someone else. You want to know you’re desirable and that you’re not dead yet. So, although it’s not an optimal solution, it presents itself, many times, as a temporary solution. As a therapist I

Honoring the Rule of Reciprocation

gfhsrfjhIn his book, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, Robert Cialdini makes reference to what he considers to be one of the most important yet often unrecognized factors inherent in the art and practice of influence and persuasion, two highly significant aspects of effective communications. Whether we involved in personal relations, business transactions, politics, sales, education, or any other domain that deals with just about any type of interpersonal transaction, our ability to influence the perspective of others, these factors is critical to the fulfillment of our goals and intentions.

Lest we forget, there is a profound difference between “control” which has to do with having domination or authority over another and “influence” which has to do with having the power to sway or affect change in another’s perspective or behavior. Efforts to control frequently result in outcomes that differ from or may even be the opposite of our intended desires, since most of us have a natural tendency to resist overt efforts from others to control our behavior or beliefs.

In his book, Cialdini makes reference to what he

The Secret to a Healthy Relationship

cgxhdScientists who study forgiveness have long agreed that it is one of the most important contributors to a healthy relationship. Studies (link is external) have shown that couples who practice forgiveness are more likely to enjoy longer, more satisfying romantic relationships. Research (link is external) has even found that people who practice unconditional forgiveness are more likely to enjoy longer lives.

Forgiveness is such a key component to a healthy relationship, because, let’s face it, people are not perfect. No matter how close to complete a soulmate we find, every individual is incredibly different from the next. Couples who form a “fantasy bond (link is external)” in an effort to merge identities, fall completely into sync and function as one are forgetting this basic reality. They’re also setting themselves up for great disappointment.

It’s important to accept that we all have separate minds and points of view. Each and every one of us is hurt, defended, flawed and inevitably going to make mistakes. Having this perspective doesn’t mean we should sit back and withstand abuse.  However, if we want to enjoy

Exploring Belgium? Read this!

What comes on your mind when you heard about Belgium? Maybe what comes on your mind will be the country in Europe. Do you want to visit Europe? There, you can contact the Bruxelles escort.  Do you want to feel the greatness of living there? Well, of course many people have the dream of visiting Europe if they are such a traveling lover. If we are such a true traveler, we will have the willingness to explore many interesting places around us, including in Europe. This is the right time for you to start having the best holiday ever, in Europe.

Well, when you visit Europe, of course you can explore many interesting places in Europe. You can visit many incredible countries in this beloved continent. Well, if you are planning for having the incredible experience in Europe, it means that there are many kinds of things that you should prepare. If you want to have the wonderful trip, ask Gent escorts agency for helping you.  First thing that you should really consider is the budget for going anywhere that you are going to go. If you do not have the budget how can you go

Facts About Escort Paris

You have chance to take some tour to France, to enjoy the fabulous city of Paris with anything you find there. Feel something missing? Though, this is not the solution for anyone, escort Paris service, perhaps, can do something to fix something missing. Escort in Paris provides anyone, especially a gentleman who yearn for extraordinary girlfriend experience within their time in Paris. Moreover, if you want to feel like home as you have someone to talk to and probably more, be honest, you need escort girl Paris.

But before you go to that point, you need to find first your preference escort girl. As starter, you need to visit their gallery to select a typical escort girl that you want. What makes escort service in Paris distinctive, all of the photographs of the girls there, are real, and it is guaranteed. If you yearn for additional information about the escort girl, the details about them are also available there. When it speaks detail is not only about their real name and so on, but as well their previous job. While reviewing their details, you will spot that those escort girls in Paris have excellent career

Men on a Mission Tour in Bangkok

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Live together or get married? Study finds similar emotional benefits

When it comes to emotional health, young couples — especially women — do just as well moving in together as they do getting married, according to a new national study.

Using data collected in the 2000s, researchers found that single young women experienced a similar decline in emotional distress when they moved in with a romantic partner or when they went straight to marriage for the first time.

Men experienced a drop in emotional distress only when they went directly to marriage, not when they moved in with a romantic partner for the first time.

But for young adults who moved on from that first relationship, both men and women received similar emotional boosts whether they moved in with their second partner or got married to them.

The findings suggest an evolving role of marriage among young people today, said Sara Mernitz, co-author of the study and a doctoral student in human sciences at The Ohio State University.

As recently as the early 1990s, young people still received emotional health benefits when they went from living together to getting married, Mernitz said.

“Now it appears that young people, especially women, get the same emotional boost from moving in together as they do from going directly to

Ways You Can Tell If a Girl Likes You

the best of you. You walk on to the next class without a Friday night date. Again.

Guys, we know you’ve all been there at one time or another. You want to ask out a certain girl, but you can’t tell if she likes you enough to say yes. Most of you would probably rather bungee jump off of the Golden Gate Bridge than risk being rejected. And, yes, the thought of rejection is terrifying — we’ll give you that. On the flip side, she could secretly be interested in you, too, so we encourage you to overcome your fears, take a risk and ask her out.

So, how can you tell if a girl likes you enough to go on a date with you? Cracking the code to a girl’s heart certainly isn’t easy, but here’s the good news — guys just like you have been looking into the issue for hundreds of years, and you can benefit from that. We have the research at your disposal.

Paying close attention to a girl’s body language is a great way to tell if she likes you. Be on the lookout for a girl who crosses

How to know when it’s time to break up

Poisonous relationships are a serious problem to deal with. No matter if its lasting for a couple of months or a couple of years, it is devastating and it can seriously hurt your psyche.

When a partner you trust and you love starts abusing you in any way, it is time to sit down and make a decision.

If you feel suffocated in you relationships, maybe time has come to face the problems and the reason why you feel uncomfortable with your partner.

1. Jealousy

Does your partner try to control you in any way? Some partners are overprotective and jealous and because of this, they restrict their partner’s life, they control their time, who they spend it with and where.

Some demand passwords for social network profiles or they check their partner’s phones in order to find a trace of disloyalty. Most of people think jealousy is a good thing and a sign of love, but the truth is it is quite the opposite – it is a sign that your partner has a lack of trust and, worse, he lacks confidence of his own.

When we are jealous, we see other people as rivals and we compare ourselves to them. Jealousy is a sign

Greatest Dating Tips For Men How To Talk To Girls

You have reached the correct location in case you’re finding it hard to search for internet dating suggestions then. Below are 5 internet dating tips for men you need to learn about.

  1. Looking for dates on the net is not only for failures. A lot of folks have not been unsuccessful in discovering their match on internet relationship websites. Before you get started doing online dating, I recommend that you re-think your ideas about online dating first.
  2. Second item with this listing of internet dating tips for men would be to get yourself to join a dating website which is actually well-enjoyed. The explanation is that the more known an internet dating website is members its. The more registered members it has the more your odds of meeting women will likely be. You do need to get women, yes? Theres no need to squander your time socializing on an internet relationship site that has no one. It actually is built to precisely the same idea. If you propose to make your network grow, then youre going to must choose a social network that enables one to meet with more people.
  3. A list of internet dating tips for men would be shortened without this

Get Your Ex Back

f you want to get back with your ex, here’s how!

by Justin Sinclair

Have you broken up with someone because of a misunderstanding, an argument, or over something that really shouldn’t have caused a break up? Cause if you are then I can understand wanting to fix your relationship even if you had gotten pretty upset with them. There are a few methods you can take first is the active version and after the passive version.

Now to take the active approach and if your ex is willing to talk then this method should be the most straightforward, but if the heat of the last argument hasn’t cooled down between the both of you then it most likely will lead to another word fight. First, come to understand what the argument was about. Then, if the argument is something you regret and that you truly want to get back together then you need to express that with your ex. Now, they might not want to talk to you and still feel upset, but you should kindly tell them that the argument went way out of hand and anything you said wasn’t how you really felt and that you would want to possibly

How To Know If A Guy Likes You

I have listed down below the body language of men which will clearly indicate that he likes you or not. Body language of men – does he like you? The points below have been written keeping the level of relationship in mind. Each point is a progress in level.

Notice where he is staring:

Does he stare at you when you are away talking with your friends or doing something else for that matter? Guys tend to secretly stare at girls they admire and like. They try to watch what the girl does and the way she behaves. So if you find a man constantly staring whenever you pass by then chances are that the man likes you and is attracted towards you.

The man’s smile

How a man smiles at you can pretty much reveal his thoughts. Is it an informal smile or is it deeper. Does the smile last for a considerably longer time or does it get cut off just like a formal hello. Also watch the man’s eyebrow. There is a raise and fall in the eyebrow when a man looks at a woman he likes.

Mirroring behavior

Mirroring is a phenomenon in which one person automatically mirrors what the other person

How to Get Back Your Ex Boyfriend Tips You Dont Want to Miss

Learning how to get back your ex boyfriend can mean the difference between a future with the man you are crazy about and one without him. Too often after a break up we rely on our emotions to guide us to win back his love. If you’ve been in this situation you know that it just doesn’t work. When we feel heartbroken we find ourselves doing things that are destructive like calling our ex over and over again pleading with him for another chance or camping out outside his home hoping he’ll see that as a sign of unwavering devotion. The fact of the matter is that unless you truly understand how a man’s mind works, you’ll never be able to get him back for good.


Understanding how to get back your ex boyfriend starts with recognizing that he needs space. Men don’t handle emotional situations the same way we do. They tend to need a cooling off period to think through things. If you’re always calling, emailing or texting and not allowing him any breathing room, he’s going to resent you more. In addition, he’s

Lessons an Individual Can Learn After Heartbreak

No doubt the pain of heart break can only be felt and understood by the one who has actually gone through the situation. But one cannot deny that it is a feeling that nobody wants to experience in their life.

After going through a serious trauma of heart break, it is useless to wallow, complain, victimize and feel sorry for yourself as it only prolongs the pain. Here are interesting lessons which can be learnt that will help people get over pain faster and also minimize future pain in case similar stressful situations occur again.

People Will Find New Friends

It is quite common that whenever we need someone with us, we do not find them. However there are times when people who are already in our life will be there to hold our hand during a rough patch. Appreciate those people and cherish their support. Remember that you should always try to be there for them as well.

Human Body Indicates What It Needs


People usually experience some physical symptoms after heart break which are an indication that the body needs something to work properly. These symptoms may include headaches, moodiness, stomach aches, insomnia and

What Are The Benefits From Dating A Cougar

Many men look to date a cougar. Cougars dating in the USA have been increasing in number because the atmosphere of the country is becoming more and more tolerant of differences. Because of this many people who were hesitant to admit that they were into cougar dating are coming forward. You and them both are probably interested in knowing what the benefits of dating a cougar are. There are quite a lot of benefits but here are just some of them for your cougar dating in 2015.

She Knows What She Wants

Many younger women are just starting out in life and still trying to figure out what they want. Cougars are older and have had plenty of time to figure out what they are interested in and what they are trying to do with their lives. They are also typically set in their financials and business status. If they aren’t set in their work life they at least know where they want to go.

She Knows How To Use Her Body… And Yours

A cougar has been around the block once or twice and she may have even been married. While at first

Do You Say This One Word That Can Destroy Your Relationship

Candlelight dinners and material gifts may feel great in the moment but they are not the things that truly sustain healthy relationships. Many otherwise intelligent, hard-working people continue to struggle to become emotionally healthy partners. One way to surprised your partner is to buy flowers online and have them delivered to them at work or at home. One way to improve your relationship: Stop “shoulding” all over the one you love!

I have virtually eliminated the word should from my vocabulary. Consistent with tenets of cognitive therapy, I believe this word promotes a controlling, judgmental dynamic. Thinking “should” about someone you love, or being on the receiving end of a “should,” creates negative energy and, over time, can be toxic for any relationship, especially a loving one.

As I write in my book, Why Can’t You Read My Mind? (link is external), if partners harbor internalized, hidden toxic thoughts, even reflective-listening drills may not expose these underlying empathy-depleting thoughts. For example, if a partner is saying, “I need you to please pick up after yourself more often,” yet inwardly thinking, “You are always going to be a slob,” then no paraphrase will rid themselves of this toxic underlying belief. For a

6 Awful Relationship Habits, and How to Break Them

Habits can be hard to break, especially when they’ve developed over the course of a long-term relationship. You know when your relationship is suffering from the effects of bad habits when you feel like something is off, or missing, in your time with your partner. You can’t quite put your finger on it, and there may be no one really to blame, but you know that things have changed.

A bad relationship habit is one that continues to occur even though it causes you or your partner distress. It may develop independent of the personalities, beliefs, or values of each individual, or it may reflect good intentions gone wrong in the way you two interact. You want to be positive, you want to be loving, but you can’t quite seem to pull it off. When alone, you build up your resolve to change, but when you’re back with your partner, that resolve melts and you’re back where you started.

Not all relationship habits are bad. The good ones allow you and your partner to function more effectively as a twosome or as part of a larger family or group. Just as your personal habits allow you

I Like You Because Your Girlfriend Is Hot

The phenomenon of mate copying occurs when an individual female (observer) indicates a romantic preference for a partnered male (target) over an unpartnered male. So to put it bluntly, the girl likes the taken guy more than the single guy. Mate copying has been documented countless times (link is external) among non-humans, and the body of empirical data confirming its existence in humans is rapidly growing.

While there have been observations of mate copying among both males AND females (link is external), there is a strong theoretical reason for believing it to occur more frequently among females. Basically, it solves a more important adaptive problem for females than it does for males: that of getting information about a potential partner. Because men are so concerned with beauty in a partner, they can look at a female and discern a fair bit of mate-relevant information from a simple observation. Not so for women.

Think of mate copying as the real-life equivalent of LinkedIn’s endorsement feature. By being seen as John’s partner, Amanda (his girlfriend) is implicitly ‘endorsing’ him for the skill of being a competent romantic partner. This

Love And Manipulation

They’re buttering you up, which is nice…sort of. You like affirmation but not if it’s manipulation.

Do they just want sex? Are they just social climbers scrambling over you to get to your connections? Are they about to ask a big favor? Are they flattering you to get you to support rather than oppose them? How can you tell what motivates their sweet gestures?

You can’t just ask, “Do you really mean it?” They’ll say yes whether they mean it or not. And they might get offended. “How dare you question my motives?” Besides none of us know all of our motives, so they could say, “yes I mean it” without knowing that they don’t.

At core, you’re wondering whether you can trust them. The only thing as bad as gullibly trusting the untrustworthy is callously distrusting the trustworthy. You want to avoid both errors and for that you’d like a sure-fire formula for determining who really appreciates you and who is just playing you to get what they want.

Love is wonderful; being used is horrible. Alas, there is no sure-fire formula for

When I Couldnt Say Goodbye

I was shocked when I heard the rattle in my father’s chest and knew he didn’t have much time. Shocked not because he was nearing death—he’d been so sick for so long—but shocked that my dad looked and sounded like all the other dying old men, the ones I had seen and heard in the wards when I was a medical student.

The logical part of me realizes the stupidity of it all, but I couldn’t fight the feeling that my dad was too unique to end his life typically. I couldn’t stop thinking that my dad, who saw life as one long competition, would find a way to die better than everyone else. Certainly not in an Alzheimer’s ward, withering away and increasingly dependent, just like the other patients.

So when my brother phoned on a Wednesday morning last summer to warn me that Dad probably only had a few hours, at most a day, I was sure that my father would die on Friday. Just so he could defy the odds. Just to outlive expectations. That was my dad.

I try not to focus on that day—nearly a year and a half ago—when

The New Routine That Is Ruining More Relationships Every Day

Cellphones have become ubiquitous, in part because they are a great way to keep in touch with others. But they’ve also turned into a source of strain in our relationships.

A common complaint among relationships partners is that they’re being ignored by a partner who can’t tear themselves away from their cellphone. We often shake our heads in disapproval when we’re dining out and see a couple at the next table more interested in their phones than each other. The term phubbing (for phone snubbing) has been used to describe the act of interrupting or ignoring an in-person conversation in order to attend to one’s phone, and several studies have shown that phubbing is a fairly common behavior among couples.1,2 There is good reason to believe that cellphone interruptions could make partners feel disconnected and less present in interactions with one another.

Recently, James Roberts and Meredith David at Baylor University designed a scale to measure how often people phub their romantic partners, in the process coining the term Pphubbing (“partner phubbing”).3 The scale asks people to rate how much they agree with nine statements, including “My partner keeps his or her cellphone in their hand when he

Why We Love to Be Scared

As a chill enters the air and as everything that can be made pumpkin is made pumpkin, our attention turns to spider webs, jack-o-lanters, and the macabre.  The scary season is upon us and before we know it, we long to walk down fog filled paths with dimly lit candles and dry rustling leaves. We decorate our houses, dress up ourselves, our kids, and our pets, and go out looking for the best-haunted house, corn maze, or scary movie. Even those with little to no taste for the startle of a haunted hayride savor the comforting yet undeniably spooky nostalgia triggered by the changing leaves and smell of spiced cider. Indeed, consumer spending has increased 55% (link is external) since 2005, for a total of $6.9 billion in 2013. So why do we love it so much?

The answers are many.

To begin with, much like Thanksgiving, Halloween is a once a year “holiday” we experience with our friends and family, making it an intense social and emotional experience that bonds us to those we love. From a child’s first trip to a pumpkin patch with her parents, to her first trick-or-treating with friends, these